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Sunday, November 8, 2009
Pre-baby Jitters
Not sure if any of the other moms out there can relate to having really bad pre-baby jitters in your whole house right before a second or third baby. Naturally before the first one, I get that, but the whole house seems very tense and stressed lately. It seems to be worse for the males too? I kinda keep to myself especially cause they seem really touchy. My two-year-old, hubby and even the male dog seem to be pregnant or PMSing or something. It's funny and frustrating at the same time and I just keep thinking to myself, "Wait a minute, who's pregnant here? Who's going under the knife on Friday?" Maybe my hormones are rubbing off? Anyone out there recall any of this when you were about to deliver? Ha! Cop Dad just leaned over to kiss me on his way to work and read this and said he thinks he is definitely having a harder time with the jitters and anxiety. Amen, least he can admit it and Amen too that's it's not all me. The song, The Final Countdown, by Europe, has been playing in my head for weeks now. It always does right before something big. 39 weeks today and 5 days to go . . . . . . . Agh!
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I've hear that men have their "PMS" regularly every 2-3 months. I'd say that's pretty true. It seems like before I have a baby that the kids behavior is much worse and my husband does seem more stressed. I think they can sense the change coming and HF feels worried about lots of things. Am I going to be okay? Is the baby going to be okay? I think a natural provider/protector response. I had a scheduled inducement for my second and nearly had a panic attack over it. OMG.THE BABY WILL BE HERE TOMORROW NO MATTER WHAT AND THERE'S NOTHING I CAN DO TO STOP IT! It seriously freaked me out that I knew it was happening at 6 am. It was comforting however to know that my 1st child had a trusted friend to watch her instead of having to worry about taking her to someone in the middle of the night if it happened unexpectedly. The third time I felt more like I knew what I wanted and I let it happen naturally. I had set up with a couple of people to watch the kids at a moment's notice and it worked out. My water broke at 2 in the morning (i never experienced that) and I just took my sweet time getting ready to go (HF was at work and had been after me for not being ready to go to the hospital). Anyway, I think what your household is feeling is normal and I think I'm just weird that I don't like knowing when the baby is coming and it's a comfort to other girls to have a scheduled induction (or c-section in your case). i'm guessing you don't have a choice with the c-section though? Do you have to be scheduled? Or can you go into labor on your own? Too risky?
I'm excited for you!
Sucks to be you, my friend.
Oh wait, you needed something encouraging. OK, it'll be over soon. :)
It's the best I can do. But you and I both know it'll be SOOOOOO worth it. AFTERWARDS. ;)
Thanks Mrs. Fuzz,
You have no idea what your comment means to me today. I was wondering what happened to my sweet Little Buddy and my recently reformed and kind and wonderful Cop Dad?!? Sounds like you have more experience than me with babies. I have NO choice with the cesarean and the baby is huge, in a small heart shaped uterus, with an old incision scar. PLUSSSSSS, it is transverse. Sooooo, the amount of risk and complications if I went into labor first could be catastrophic. I know what you mean about the knowing when thing though, I was kinda hoping I'd have something occur on it's own by now but then also felt like a ticking time bomb in a sense. Thanks so much for your comment. Even our male dog has been acting bizarre, very bizarre. I hope to not be bawling and hyperventilating that morning and feeling all sad about how my sons life will change too. I will miss the closeness we now have but know in the end that this will be the best gift we could ever give him, a sibling to torture, play with and have as he ages.
Meadowlark, though your comment is not very comforting, I had to laugh. Ahh, even in my current state, Meadowlark pulls through with nothing less than pure Meadowlarkness. If you gave me something other than that, I think it would only add to my anxiety. Pure and true, is you my friend. It will be worth it in the end.
Now, can you both come and hold my hands in the OR that morning? Ha! JK! Thanks for your comments. Heading out for a cocktail now and know I will feel better in moments. JK!!! Gagh, 6 stinkin' days!
I'll have a cocktail in your stead. In fact I may get drunk and dance nekkid on the table, just for you!
You'll be fine chica and we're all here waiting to cheer when it's over and you bring home a new little punkin.
I'm with Meadowlark!plus its been too long for me to remember how anyone acted.lol
when your cute little baby is here you'll forget all about men and their pms!
Well, I would've felt really stupid with my comments on the last post, but I appreciate the nice way in which you clarified! I had hoped it/she/he was here!
As for pre-baby jitters, I planned so far in advance on everything with the 2nd pregnancy that I was very calm when she came 3 weeks early.
It was the exact opposite when I had my first because I had things to do the day he was born, and having a baby 3 weeks early was NOT one of them! It seriously took almost 6 months to recover from that disorientation.
I would be all jittery too if I had the complications you had, which isn't very soothing to say right now.
I think it just goes to show how strong you are that you can handle so much more, while I freaked out more over a messy house and missed appointments because the baby came instead. So lame.
Thanks L&P,
I know you are right but still can't shake the nerves. Just wish I could hit fast forward through some of the scary/hard parts. I'm such a wuss about having cesareans. Gagh!
Hey Natalie,
That is a crazy coinkydink because I too had our first 3 weeks early and had NOTHING completely organized and I am a VERY organized person as well. This time around we have pretty much everything as ready as it can be BUT ourselves mentally. I think we are at a point in our lives that we have certain freedoms and our 2 (almost 3) year old is old enough to do certain things and we have our life the way we want it. Selfish, I know, but we both agree we feel like the walls are closing in and we won't be able to have any semblance of normalcy ever again. This I'm sure will pass as we figure everything out and get situated with a new baby and routine, etc. But that can be quite a few weeks or months I'm sure. Anyway, thanks as always for your comments. I'm sure all will be fine. There is nothing natural or normal about feeling comfortable or relaxed about being cut open WHILE AWAKE. Yikes! Though I am trying to focus on the moment they hold the baby up and declare what sex it is. VERY EXCITING after waiting to know all this time :)
I remember having these feelings too, how would I manage with two? Would I forget one somewhere? How would my oldest take it? (Pretty well, actually, even though he asked me to put the baby back several times at first. No Can DO, Son, sorry!!)Other worries like How could I love another baby as much as my oldest? (Poof goes that the second you see your baby, I swear!).
I wish and send my best, take good care!
I know exactly what you mean about the normalcy thing. Those are my really bad days until the kiddies do something amazing that makes me SO grateful that I got to witness it.
I wish I could say it makes the sacrifices all worth it, but I have too many of those "longing for normalcy" days.
I've just concluded that having two isn't necessarily harder than just the one; I just have to add more prep time. It's proper parenting that's extremely hard, which shows how important it is.
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