My MIL absolutely drives me nuts (you may have picked up on that in previous posts). She showed up here tonight with her "partner" who currently has a cold. Are you kidding me? When I asked if she was sick she said she never missed a day of work in her life. That does not answer my question. Then she got completely offended and said, "If you don't want us here we'll just leave." Who? Who I ask you does not know to stay away from babies when you are sick? If her partner does not know that cause she never had children fine, but my MIL should definitely know that. Duh! I was so pissed. They ended up staying. Sad truth is that they are both in the healthcare profession. My MIL is a doctor and her partner is a physical therapist.
To top it off, my mother in law keeps asking me, "When I am going to quit breastfeeding?" I find this odd on so many levels I don't know where to begin. Again, she is a doctor. She told me when I was dating my husband (her son) several times when the children topic came up, "Whatever you do, DON'T BREASTFEED." How stupid can you be? First of all was she absent at medical school all the days that they covered how extremely beneficial (emotionally & physically) breastfeeding is for both mother and child? Needless to say she had her kids, breastfed as little as she could and threw them in daycare so she could go back to work and school. She has no comprehension of being a stay-at-home-mom. She does not understand it and does not value it whatsoever. She is always trying to get the baby to herself. Even our counselor says that it is not normal and that we should try to limit contact with her for that and several other reasons. Sad thing is that she probably thought that having a grandchild would give her a second shot at motherhood. I don't think so. She is so pushy and manipulative that it pushes me away and turns me off entirely. Does she forget that she has to go through me to get the baby? Might me a good idea to get on my good side. RRrrrgh!
When my husband had his surgery she got to watch him for the first time. Later, when I got home she had nothing to say about her son who just went into surgery. It was baby this and baby that. Then that night just about everyone was trying to go and visit my husband at the hospital. She kept offering to come and watch the baby again so I could go to the hospital. I told her it might me nice to visit her son. She actually said she wouldn't have time for that. Then tell me how would you have time to watch the baby so I could go visit my husband. This woman is a piece of work. When she finally did end up going to the hospital to visit my husband she turned to me and said, "He's gonna milk this for all it's worth." Then she proceeded to dote over her grandson and paid little attention to her own son laying in the hospital bed. Sad, very sad. RRrrrgh again.
Sorry to bitch your eyes/ears off but this is one of the biggest reasons I started a blog in the first place. I will use you all as sounding boards. Perhaps I am just really bitchy about this whole situation . . . . . . nah. Tell me what you honestly think.
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6 comments:
You should breastfeed as long as you feel it's what best for you and your baby.
Bring it on. We can take it.
:-)
It's a little odd, to say the least. Then again, my husband only talks to his parents about once a month. When he had a surgery in December, I don't even think they knew about it. I'm impressed that you feel brave enough to blog about inlaws. I was always too scared that they would find the blog and get all upset about me writing anything negative about them. More power to you.
Ignore your MIL! 1st of all, she is from a different generation that thought breastfeeding was bad. Some Doctors just don't read the updated research either. If anything, my experience with getting pregnant and childbirth helped me to see, in some causes, we know more than Drs.
Val, I would of been so annoyed if someone showed up at my house sick! I think you handled yourself beautifully.
I think you have every right to bitch. Now theres a badge, "Every right to Bitch".
I am still trying to get over how she is a doctor and advised you not to breastfeed! Wow! It sounds like you really have your hands full with her.
Thanks for all the supportive comments and eyes for all my bitchin'. You all rock! Honestly, I wonder if they ever have blog get-togethers where everyone can meet because you really do become friends with people that you probably never meet. It's kinda sad. Thanks!
One of my bloggy friends (also someone I know in real life) has kept a running tally of all the bloggers she's met. I think she's approaching 40 by now... But she travels and is quite an extrovert. :-)
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