Just had a really yucky appointment today with the very last Dr. from this practice that I had yet to meet/see. He was rude, condescending, abrasive, and kept asking me why I was there and why the specialist was requesting the things he requested. It was yucky, yucky, yucky!!! Then to top it off when I felt just as icky and odd and offended as could be for being talked to like that I HAD to ask him to do a cervical check. He had the audacity to say he saw no reason to do that even though the specialist requested it and, "He would do it for me if I really wanted him to???" Too weird. Never opened the door and said, "Hello, nice to meet you, I am Dr. Dickhead," no nothing. Just kept drilling and questioning me like a complete snot with total disrespect and the most condescending tone I have EVER heard. Right when he checked my cervix (manually) he then said in a very exasperated tone, "It's just FINE like I knew it would be (deep breath of annoyance)."
I left there without even making another appointment which I needed to do, the awesome specialist that was with me through the first pregnancy requested I start going every week and getting a non-stress test every time I go as well as a cervical check. I got in the car and then called the specialist to make sure that they send the consult RIGHT AWAY, because the doctor I just saw seemed annoyed as to why the specialist wanted the things he wanted them to do. The woman at the specialist office asked me if I just had a visit and I said yes and then told her it was with Dr. Dickhead and she said, "Ohhhhhhh, yeah, nobody likes that guy." WOW!!! That is completely understandable and pathetic at the same time. Then I got off the phone with her and the surgery scheduler called me because I immediately called and left her a voicemail that under no circumstances did I want that Dr. delivering my child. I then told her the whole story in tears. This will be going to her manager. Then when the hubby who is in DT special training this week called to ask how the appointment went cause he always goes with me to all of them but could not today, he was red hot and on the horn to give the office a piece of his mind. OY! Then I had to pick up Little Buddy at my SMIL's house and broke down to her as well. It was just a bad, bad, day.
Now I am fearing going back to see anybody else at that office AND afraid I will get shotty care after that incident. What if they all hear about it and I am blacklisted? Ugh! What if I go into spontaneous labor when Dr. Dickhead is on call? I am tempted to request the hospital janitor in that case. This sucks! Oddly, when I called the receptionist to make an appointment for the next week everybody was full just about all days at the three different locations I am willing to go to, all accept, you guessed it, Dr. Dickhead had LOTS of openings. I told the receptionist, "No thanks, is ANYBODY else available?" She squeezed me in with the PA. Whatever, I have not had many happy times at this practice and miss my old practice horribly. Was a patient of Dr. Pleasantlady for almost 19 years before we had to switch to crappy and cheap HMO. Hopefully one day I can go back to Dr. Pleasantlady again one day. Unfortunately, with being done with babies after this one is out, I think, you really only visit the "Lady Doctor," once a year. Stinksville :(
Sheesh, now this office manager is supposed to be taking care of the whole situation and calling my husband back. What if they dropped me after all this? Oh God, what would I do then? Like I need more stress in my life AND with this pregnancy. OY! No wait, DOUBLE OY!!!
Anyone ever have any similar type of situations to compare it to? Any WOW (Words Of Wisdom)? I'm all ears. Oh, and baby :)
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By reading this post it seems like everyone knows about him and "his ways". I don't think you will get black listed or anything. I am sure you aren't the only one who complained so don't stress over it. Maybe with all the complaints they will get rid of dr.dickhead.
The MD office won't drop you, they probably have gotten tons of complaints about this Bas.turd and dislike working with him too. I am sure he's a Jacka$$ to the staff too.
I wouldn't let him touch me and he probably has been reported to the Medical Board.
This has really got me P.O.'ed! Nobody messes w/Momma Val, especially when pregnant.
I think the only words of wisdom I have is that 1.Nobody deserves to be treated like this. 2.This lame ass MD is a Liability and UNPROFESSIONAL. 3.You are perfectly reasonable in Insisting that he doesn't participate in YOUR CARE AT ALL. That is a good boundary to maintain not only for your physical wellbeing, but also pyschological too.
I am here for you, Big ((HUGS)), some virtual Kleenex, and another (Hug), your friend, Martha
Now is probably not the time to say that I can't relate to this because I have a Dr. Pleasantlady of my own and the delivery doc actually delivered one of my brothers. They've been super sweet and extremely professional. Yeah, now's not the time to share that info. ;)
I can't imagine going through anything like that because the stupidest things set me off with all my normalcy in my pregnancies and labors, so that would have sent me to the pits of despair.
Good luck. Hugs!!!
WOW...thats all as a guy I am allowed to say.
I agree with Texas here. It sounds like this horrible doctor is known as the ucky one--and I can see why! UCK. Whatever happened to listening to your patients and having a pleasant bedside manner?! See, part of the reason I used a midwife instead. Yeesh. So sorry you had to go through that rubbish. :(
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P.S. Give that round belly a pat for me! SOOO excited!!!
P.P.S. Did a few guest posts at www.greenphonebooth.com. :)
OMG. What a horrible doctor. With my first pregnancy, I had no idea what was going on and chose the worst group to see. They were all old fuddy duddies (I'm sure there's some great fuddy duddies, just sayin') and it was very impersonal. One in particular was very cold and condescending. Treated us like cattle. He also wouldn't say anything when he walked into the room, he would just walk over, lift up my shirt and start touching my belly. I HATED it. I prayed that I would get any doctor but him when i went into delivery. But I got him. He disregarded everything I wanted. It was awful. The second pregnancy I went to a great place. Awesome doctor and she had an awesome assistant. Third time around I did the midwife thing and a doula. IT WAS INCREDIBLE. I can't go back now if we have more.
It makes me wonder why this guy hasn't lost his practice or had some kind of disciplinary action. The fact that he was the only doctor that wasn't full and many people have obviously voiced their displeasure about him make me wonder why he is still practicing! I wonder if you were to confront him while he's treating you what he would say. That is unacceptable. When a woman is pregnant, she deserves the best treatment and care. I don't see how anything that happened after the appointment would make you look bad. It will make him look bad. But I know what you mean. I don't know if you ever saw that episode of Seinfeld where Elaine was at the doctor and they had a file on her that said things like, "difficult". It was hilarious, but it got me wondering if they DO keep notes like that, you know?
Having a doctor you love makes all the difference in the world. Here's hoping that you DON'T get him if you go into labor!
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